Relationship Reset 6 Month Program
Rebuild Trust, Closeness, and Sexual Connection
A private, clinician-led program for couples who don’t want disconnection to become permanent.
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If you’re here, something already feels off.
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Maybe you’re not fighting constantly, but you’re not close either.
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Maybe sex feels tense, pressured, or loaded with meaning.
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Maybe you love each other, but connection feels fragile or exhausting.
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And somewhere in the back of your mind, there’s a question you don’t say out loud:
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“If we’re honest… how much longer can this really last?”
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Most couples don’t break up because of one dramatic event.
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They break up because distance becomes normal, and repair feels harder than avoidance.
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This program exists to interrupt that slow drift, before the cost becomes too high to undo.
Why Waiting Is Often the Most Expensive Choice Couples Make
Research consistently suggests that couples wait an average of 5–6 years after serious problems begin before seeking meaningful help.
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By then:
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It no longer feels safe to be open or honest
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Sexual connection feels tense, scary, or nonexistent
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Resentment starts to define the relationship
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Fixing things feels harder than emotionally checking out
The cost of waiting is losing the relationship while still living in it.
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Divorce and long-term relational distress are associated with:
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A 30–50% loss in household wealth over time
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Increased rates of depression, anxiety, substance use, and chronic stress
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Measurable impacts on physical health and longevity
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Emotional and developmental disruption for children, even when conflict is “quiet”
And even when couples avoid divorce, many pay in quieter ways:
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Years of unfocused therapy without a clear roadmap
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Ongoing sexual disconnection that erodes confidence and desire
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A relationship that survives, but no longer nourishes
By the time most couples reach out for help, they haven’t just lost time - they’ve lost emotional energy, sexual confidence, and hope that change is possible.
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This program replaces uncertainty with structure.
Introducing: The Relationship Reset Program
The Relationship Reset is a 6 month, private, clinician-led program for couples who want to:
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​Speak honestly without fear of consequences
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Restore sexual connection without pressure or avoidance
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Handle conflict without damaging trust
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Protect their relationship, family, and future
This is not “couples therapy with a prettier name.”
Why This Approach Works
Traditional therapy often:
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Focuses on insight without structure or sequencing
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Moves too slowly for couples already in distress
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Avoids sex, trauma, or resentment until patterns are deeply entrenched
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Lacks a clear definition of what “progress” actually looks like
The Relationship Reset Program is intentionally different.
This work is designed around how real, lasting change actually happens in relationships.
Here’s what makes it effective:
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A personalized diagnostic and treatment plan before you begin, so both partners understand what needs attention and why
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One clear focus each week, removing confusion and reducing overwhelm
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Practical tools to regulate your nervous system, make sense of intense reactions, and repair emotional and sexual disconnection
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Weekly private sessions to apply the work in real life, not just understand it intellectually
Why six months matters
When couples are navigating trauma, nervous system dysregulation, resentment, and long-standing communication patterns, meaningful change does not happen quickly or accidentally.
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Six months of consistent, weekly work allows time to:
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Build emotional and physiological safety
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Interrupt reactive patterns and replace them with new responses
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Process hurts and resentments without re-traumatizing either partner
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Relearn intimacy in a way that feels consensual, grounded, and sustainable
This isn’t about rushing the process, or dragging it out.
It’s about giving your relationship the minimum amount of time required for real, noticeable change to take hold.
This is the difference between hoping things improve and committing to a structured process that actually works.
What You'll Receive
Weekly Private Sessions Over 6 months
Private sessions every week with a relationship and sex therapy expert to:
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Track progress in real time
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Move at a pace that feels manageable for both partners
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Address emotional and sexual issues as they arise
A Personalized Relationship Reset Roadmap
Based on a diagnostic assessment, you’ll receive a visual map outlining:
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Core relational patterns
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Why they exist
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What each week focuses on and why
Couples often say this alone reduces blame and increases hope.
Weekly Educational & Practical Tools
Delivered weekly and designed to prevent overwhelm:
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Communication and repair scripts
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Sexual reconnection exercises
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Nervous-system regulation tools
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Practical, reusable frameworks
This isn’t surface-level advice. These are tools you’ll use long after this program ends.
What You’ll Master Throughout This Program
The Problem Isn’t You - It’s the Pattern
Gain clarity, relief, and a shared understanding of what’s actually happening in your relationship, so blame gives way to insight and direction.
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Calm the Body, Save the Relationship
Learn how to calm your body and emotions before conflict causes damage, so conversations feel safer and connection can grow.
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The Cycle That Keeps You Stuck
Identify the recurring relational cycles so they lose power and stop running the relationship.
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Protectors, Not Personality Flaws
See reactivity and withdrawal for what they are: attempts to stay safe, not proof that something is wrong with you or your partner.
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Feeling Seen Changes Everything
Develop skills for emotional attunement and validation, one of the strongest predictors of long-term relationship success.
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How to Fight Without Destroying Trust
Learn repair strategies that allow conflict to strengthen trust instead of eroding it.
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Stress Is the Enemy - Not Each Other
Shift from opposition to teamwork by understanding how external stress impacts connection and desire.
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Why Sex Hasn’t Felt Safe (and How to Fix That)
Rebuild sexual trust and intimacy without pressure, force, or performance expectations.
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Talking About Sex Without Shutdown or Rejection
Practice honest, regulated communication about desire, boundaries, and needs.
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Desire Is Context - Not a Character Flaw
End the blame cycle around mismatched desire by understanding how stress, safety, and attachment shape libido.
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Keeping Passion Alive Without Burning Out
Learn how to create sustainable emotional and sexual vitality without exhaustion or pressure.​
Common Concerns
(And Why They Don’t Apply Here)
“We don’t have time.”
This work doesn’t require more time. It prevents ongoing loss of it.
Six months of structured support replaces years of uncertainty and emotional drain.
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“We’ve already tried therapy.”
Insight alone doesn’t create change. This coaching-based program is designed to translate insight into action through structure, sequencing, and guided practice, so new patterns can actually take hold in daily life.
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“What if one of us is more invested?”
The diagnostic and shared structure make the work clear and shared, so one person isn’t carrying the relationship alone. The option of booking a Strategy Session first allows hesitancy to become something we explore together, rather than a barrier to starting.
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“What makes this investment worth it?"
Most couples aren't lacking effort. They're lacking structure. Many spend months or years in open-ended therapy without a clear plan, shared direction, or a definition of what progress actually looks like.
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This program is designed differently. It is a focused, six-month process that addresses the root causes of disconnection, including trauma, nervous system dysregulation, unresolved resentment, and reactive communication patterns, at the same time rather than in isolation.
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Instead of paying indefinitely while hoping things improve, you are committing to a clear path with weekly support, intentional sequencing, and a shared framework that helps change actually take hold.
Nothing in this program requires forced disclosure, performance, or moving faster than your nervous system can tolerate. Pacing and safety are built into the structure.
About Your Coach
Led by Valerie McDonnell, LCSW, a licensed psychotherapist and relationship coach with:
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12+ years supporting emotional and relational healing
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10 years specializing in couples and sex therapy
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7 years leading a private practice dedicated to intimacy and connection
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Extensive experience teaching trauma-informed care to clinicians and first responders
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Personal experience healing from trauma using the same tools taught in this program
This is work guided by both clinical expertise and lived understanding.
Investment & Availability
Investment: $7,800 per couple
(Payment plans available for $1,300/month)
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Duration: 6 months
Format: Weekly 60-minute private online sessions
Availability: This program is offered to a small number of couples each month so each relationship receives focused, individualized support.​
Our Guarantee
If after completing:
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The diagnostic assessment
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The first 4 sessions
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The initial learning and integration work
You determine the program is not the right fit, you may discontinue the program and receive a refund for the unused sessions (please provide written notice per our guidelines).
This guarantee is meant to support thoughtful, grounded decision-making while honoring the effort real change requires.
Final Thoughts
When a relationship changes:
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Daily stress drops because you’re no longer walking on eggshells
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Emotional and sexual connection return instead of feeling forced
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Children experience greater stability and emotional safety
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The future feels clear and workable instead of uncertain
This level of change doesn’t happen by chance.
It happens when couples stop guessing, stop over-talking, and follow a clear, proven strategy.
Trying harder isn’t the answer.
Waiting longer isn’t the answer.
Structure, guidance, and consistency are.