DESIRE & FANTASY
We had gone a while without sex—by far our longest dry spell. We both knew we had to do something about it—but we didn't know how to start. We thought about sex therapy but it was expensive. Then we found Lipservice... And I have to say it was a little awkward at first, but we were having fun anyway. But by the time we got to the Sensate Focus exercise—well in the name of modesty I'll just say, we broke the seal.
A relationship communication guide designed by a sex therapist
Communication is hard!
You have one person with all their history...
and another person with all their history...
on top of that, all their shared history...
And that's a whole lot of complex context all tangled together.
Mix in the stress of daily life. Financial concerns. Quarantine fatigue. Kids, career, anxiety, aging...
So what's the solution?
Communication = closeness = intimacy
If you're already in sex therapy or relationship counseling, that's not news to you. That's one great benefit of therapy—a moderated safe space to get vulnerable and be heard on tough issues with a professional who knows how to probe.
But how do you keep that going outside your couple's therapy room?
And why does your relationship communication homework feel like a chore?
Does talking about Us always have to be so heavy?
Well trust me when I say that working on intimate relationships can be fun and exhilarating AND challenging and vulnerable. Otherwise what's the point?
Lipservice incorporates multiple sex therapy and relationship counseling modalities I use in my private coaching practice into a simple, gamified structure that will get you talking, sharing, exploring, touching, and more.
But hey—like all things related to learning and communication, you get out what you put in.
Try it today...what's there to lose? Tell you what: if you download Lipservice and get stuck anywhere, just reach out and I'll give you a complimentary 30-minute consultation.
Lipservice: a DIY workpack of proven sex therapy techniques & exercises to help you build better communication habits and deeper intimacy.
4 pillars of sexual communication
Refocusing on what you appreciate about your partner. What makes them special & important.
Listen first. Empathy next. Then more empathy. Talk your way through what makes you you.
How it works. How it doesn't. How to talk about it as it ebbs and flows throughout your life.
From ritualized non-sexual touching, to expressing hidden fantasies—some talk is tactile.
4 weeks of actionable strategy
You've already done the hard part. You've already decided to work on your relationship.
Download the guide
Print the PDF or type directly in the file
Work through the activities and discussions
When the 4 weeks are up—repeat any or all, as desired
Lipservice isn't a silver bullet. It's a framework for setting your intention and getting to work. It's a map to better communication—but you still have to take the journey.
Lipservice: DIY Sex Talk download includes:
-Fun, insightful weekly worksheets
-Solo & partner activities
-Mindfulness journaling prompts
-Structured sexuality conversations
-Sensual (not sexual) exploration exercises
-Exclusive access to educational materials
Plus check-ins, challenges, and bonus resources.
If you can't keep the 4-week schedule, just use the emails to work at your own pace.
We've done some relationship therapy before, so some of this stuff was familiar. But therapy is talk, talk, talk. Lipservice is do, do, do. Really good for action-minded people like my husband who has no interest in reminiscing about his parents.
Okay so what's holding you back?
You deserve to thrive! You deserve to be heard! You deserve to work on your relationship together without being bored or stressed while doing it.
Worried about adding more responsibilities to your overloaded schedule? Makes sense. Who has room for one more task to accomplish, one more box to check?
You need some time for R&R, right?
Okay so what if we put it this way—you like board games right?
Think of Lipservice as a live-action board game you play with your lover—spanning 4 weeks and a variety of quests and challenges. Which may involve diplomacy, sensual exploration, or anything between. And it's one of those games where you play together for a common win.
Plus the extra fun part is some of those side quests lead to adventurous sex (whatever that means to you).
Get Lipservice for a fun interactive journey of playful discovery & intimate insight with your partner(s).