RISE Library: Articles on Sex, Intimacy, and Communication 

A viral podcast clip recently claimed that pleasuring a woman during sex has “not much ROI” and that using a vibrator would make him feel “cucked.” Reducing a woman’s orgasm to a business calculation may sound extreme, but the belief underneath it is far more common. Female pleasure is treated as extra, optional, or only worth pursuing when it happens easily. Sex education often skips the clitoris, pornography turns performance into instruction, and penetration is still treat

When one partner wants sex and the other pulls away, it can start to feel like every attempt at closeness comes with a risk. If you’re the one initiating, you may feel rejected, unwanted, or unsure whether your partner desires you anymore. So eventually, you stop trying altogether, not because the desire is gone, but because the rejection has become too painful to keep risking. Underneath that pattern, both partners are usually trying to protect themselves. One person reaches

You love your partner and want sex to feel close, connected, and mutual, yet desire can still feel harder to access than you think it should. When they ask what you like, what turns you on, or what would help you feel more present in your body, you may not have a clear answer. That confusion can be painful for both of you, especially when your partner experiences your uncertainty as distance, disconnection, or rejection. Those moments make more sense when you look at how earl